“UNDERSTANDING ATTACHMENT STYLES TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS “

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Attachment styles and the roles they play in relationships is a wide spread topic of interest, both in research and in peoples’personal drives to understand their patterns of thoughts and behaviours. This level of interest is entirely understandable as the different attachment styles in relationships can impact interpersonal interactions in unique ways.

WHAT ARE ATTACHMENT STYLES AND HOW DO THEY AFFECT OUR RELATIONSHIPS

According to psychiatrist and psychoanalyst john bowlby, one’s bond with their primary caregivers during childhood has an overarching influence on their future social and intimate relationships-and even their relationships at work.

THE FOUR ATTACHMENT STYLES……..

1-ANXIOUS.

2-AVOIDANT.

3-DISORGANIZED.

4-SECURE.

1-ANXIOUS/PREOCCUPIED

Adults with an anxious attachment style tend to have a negative self-view, but a positive view of others. This means that they may view their partner as their literal “better half”. Because someone with this attachment style deems themselves to be less worthy of love in comparison to other people, the thought of living without their partner (or being alone in general)causes high levels of anxiety.

2-AVOIDENT/DISMISSIVE

People with the avoidant/dismissive attachment style tend to have a positive self-view and negative one of others. Consequently, they prefer to foster high sense of independence and self-sufficiency -especially on an emotional level.

3-Disorganized/Fearful-Avoidant

People with the disorganized attachment style tend to vacillate between the traits of both anxious and avoidant attachment depending on their mood and circumstances. For this reason, someone with this attachment styles tends to show confusing and ambiguous behaviours in their social bonds.

4-SECURE ATTACHMENT

The three attachment styles covered so far are insecure attachment styles, so they are characterized by difficulties with cultivating and maintaining healthy relationships.

In contrast, the secure attachment style implies that a person is comfortable expressing emotions openly. Therefore, adults with a secure attachments style can depend on their partners and, in turn, let their partners rely on them.

CONCLUSION- Although it is completely normal to recognize features of one or more types of attachment in your history of romantic relationships, it’s important to remember that attachment types can change with major life events, or even with different partners.

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