“HOW TO RECOGNIZE MANIPULATIVE BEHAVIOUR AND RECLAIM YOUR LIFE”

SO WE ARE GOING TO NOTICE THE SIGN OF MANIPULATED BEHAVIOUR AND HOW TO ESCAPE TO MOVE TO A NEW ERA OF YOUR LIFE..

Emotional manipulators may skip a few steps in the traditional get-to-know-you phase. They “share” their darkest secrets and vulnerabilities.

What they’re really doing, however, is trying to make you feel special so that you divulge your secrets. They can use these sensitivities against you later.

For example:

1-“I feel like we’re just connecting on a really deep level. I’ve never had this happen before.”

2-“I’ve never had someone share their vision with me like you have. We’re really meant to be in this together.”

2-They twist the facts

Emotional manipulators are masters at altering reality with lies, fibs, or misstatements in order to confuse you.

They may exaggerate events to make themselves seem more vulnerable.

They may also understate their role in a conflict in order to gain your sympathy.

For example:

1-“I asked a question about the project and she came at me, yelling about how I never did anything to help her, but you know I do, right?”

2-“I cried all night and didn’t sleep a wink.”

3-They engage in intellectual bullying

If someone overwhelms you with statistics, jargon, or facts when you ask a question, you may be experiencing a type of emotional manipulation.Some manipulators presume to be the expert, and they impose their “knowledge” on you. This is particularly common in financial or sales situations.

For example:

1-“You’re new to this, so I wouldn’t expect you to understand.”

2-“I know these are a lot of numbers for you, so I’ll go through this again slowly.”

4-They make you feel sorry for voicing concerns

If you ask questions or make a suggestion, an emotional manipulator will likely respond in an aggressive manner or try to draw you into an argument.

This strategy allows them to control your choices and influence your decisions.

They may also use the situation to make you feel guilty for expressing your concerns in the first place.For example:

1-“I don’t understand why you don’t just trust me.”

2-“You know I’m just an anxious person. I can’t help it I want to know where you are at all times.”

5-They act like a martyr

Someone who manipulates people’s emotions may eagerly agree to help with something but then turn around and drag their feet or look for ways to avoid their agreement.

They may act like it’s ended up being a huge burden, and they’ll seek to exploit your emotions in order to get out of it.

For example:

1-“I know you need this from me. This is just a lot, and I’m already overwhelmed.”

2-“This is harder than it looks. I don’t think you knew that when you asked me.”

6-They’re always “just joking” when they say something rude or meanCritical remarks may be disguised as humor or sarcasm. They may pretend they’re saying something in jest, when what they’re really trying to do is plant a seed of doubt.

For example:

1-“Geez, you look exhausted!”

2-“Well if you’d get up from your desk some and walk around, you wouldn’t get out of breath so easily.”

7-They don’t take accountability

Emotional manipulators will never accept responsibility for their errors.

They will, however, try to find a way to make you feel guilty for everything. from a fight to a failed project.

You may end up apologizing, even if they’re the one at fault.

For example:

1-“I only did it because I love you so much.”

2-“If you hadn’t gone to your kid’s awards program, you could have finished the project the right way.”

8-They’re always criticizing you Emotional manipulators may dismiss or degrade you without the pretense of jest or sarcasm. Their comments are designed to chip away at your self-esteem.

They’re meant to ridicule and marginalize you. Often, the manipulator is projecting their own insecurities.

For example:

1-“Don’t you think that dress is a little revealing for a client meeting? I guess that’s one way to get the account.”

2-“All you do is eat.”

#LET’S LEARN HOW TO RECLAIM YOUR LIFE WITH YOUR POWER.

1-Keep your self-respect:

Don’t apologize when they blame you for their problems. Understand that you are not responsible for other people’s issues and that they need to take responsibility for their own problems.Mature people don’t blame others. Instead, they own their problems, they seek advice, and they ask for the willing support from others.Don’t allow anyone to disrespect you. You always have the option to simply walk away without any explanations. Your action will speak for itself.

2-Impose boundaries:

Have a fluid and firm “no” without any verbal or non-verbal hesitation. Smiling calmly while you say no also put you in power position relative to the manipulator.Manipulators are known to not take a “no” as an answer. In this case another useful technique is to use the broken record of repeating your “no” as many times as needed. You don’t need to change your “no” or dress it up differently every time. Be persistent, consistent, and calm.

3-Show disinterest

Manipulators are fueled by people’s emotive reactions. They thrive and motivate when they realize that they can control your emotions because that is how they know they manipulate you to do what they want.

They lose interest in you and when you look bored and don’t react. Don’t express emotions like anger, fear, nervousness, impatience, hope, or excitement. Keep a neutral demeanor, calm voice, and look uninterested in their game.

4-Question their motivations:

Manipulators often hide their real motivations because they don’t like to take responsibility for their own actions and behaviors. Therefore, a great strategy is to force them to reveal their real motivations by asking them clarifying questions like “what do you mean by that?” or “what is your objective with this?”Their response will usually be to back off because they don’t want the spotlight to be on them. If they try to put the spotlight back on you with blaming or other tactics, then repeat your clarifying questions.